Proud Flesh: A Memoir of Motherhood, Intimate Violence, and Reclaiming Pleasure🕊️

By Catherine Simone Gray.

Proud Flesh is a searing and unforgettable memoir that delves into the complexities of motherhood, trauma, and bodily reclamation with remarkable honesty.

Catherine Simone Gray’s writing is visceral, poetic, and deeply affecting, capturing the raw physicality of postpartum recovery while unearthing the emotional wounds of an abusive past. This book does not shy away from the uncomfortable, instead leaning into the realities of a body forever changed by both violence and birth.

What makes Proud Flesh so compelling is its refusal to fit neatly into any one category. It is a memoir about pregnancy and motherhood, but it is also a powerful account of intimate partner violence, a reflection on intergenerational trauma, and a reclamation of pleasure after pain. Gray’s dual narrative structure, moving between her postpartum struggles and the summer of her seventeenth year, highlights how trauma lingers, embedding itself in the body long before the mind is ready to acknowledge it.

Her prose is stunning, evoking the lush, untamed landscape of Mississippi as both a setting and a metaphor for the wild, unbound nature of the female body. She captures the stark realities of healing—how it is not always linear, how the past can resurface when we least expect it, and how motherhood itself can be both a source of love and a confrontation with old wounds.

The idea that trauma remaps not just our bodies but our relationships with our children and partners is explored with breathtaking clarity.

Gray does not hold back in her examination of pain, but she also writes with a profound sense of hope. This is a book about survival, but more importantly, it is about reclaiming joy and bodily autonomy. It is about finding pleasure in a body that has endured, learning to trust oneself again, and breaking free from the cycles of harm passed down through generations.

This is one of those rare books that lingers long after the final page. It is unflinching, beautifully written, and deeply necessary. Gray has crafted a memoir that is as much a personal reckoning as it is a universal testament to resilience. A must-read for anyone interested in stories of survival, motherhood, and the ways we learn to inhabit our bodies after trauma.

Thank you to Julia and the team at North Atlantic Books for sending me a finished copy of the book. The book is out now and available to buy.

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